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And then, John Wesley was married. His strategy for being a good husband was pretty unproblematic: 'I cannot empathise how a Methodist preacher tin reply it to God to preach one sermon or travel one twenty-four hour period less, in a married than in a single state.'
At first Molly accompanied him but his travel schedule (by any standard through all church history) was relentless, and she, as a newly married twoscore year one-time woman, was clearly hoping for some normal domestic joys.
Often absent-minded for weeks at a time, Wesley gave his wife permission to open all the mail that came for him. This included many letters from women seeking guidance and counsel, and Molly soon began to feel that some of them had more than a piddling affection towards her human.

Jealousy, slander and insensitivity
Her jealousy increased, as did her sense of being overlooked past him, and fifty-fifty unloved by him. She began to be, not only troubled past but gripped by jealousy.
She wrote disgruntled, critical, letters to him. She travelled to spy on him. She sent his individual papers directly to his enemies that they might slander him. Eventually she publicly and repeatedly accused him of adultery over a catamenia of 20 years.
At one signal, after a fierce exchange of letters, he sent a scathing, hostile, answer.
'Know me and know yourself. Suspect me no more, asperse me no more, provoke me no more than: exercise not any longer debate for mastery…be content to be a private insignificant person, known and loved by God and me.'
Robert Southey, who quotes this letter of the alphabet, gives more of its contents, 'He reminded her that she had laid to his charge things that he knew non, robbed him, betrayed his confidence, revealed his secrets, given him a thousand treacherous wounds, and fabricated it her business concern and so to do, under the pretence of vindicating her own character; 'whereas', said he, 'of what importance is your grapheme to mankind? If you were buried just now, or if you had never lived, what loss would it exist to the crusade of God?'
Southey adds, 'There are few stomachs which could deport to have humility administered in such doses.' (Robert Southey, The Life of John Wesley, Hutchinson, p.266)

Dragged forth by the hair
On several occasions she left abode, just returning after he begged her repeatedly. Although he had been unspeakably aroused with her, he kept aiming at reconciliation.
But the home life was unhappy. John Hampson of Manchester 'once entered a room unannounced to detect Molly dragging her husband across the floor by his hair.' (John Pollock, Wesley, Hodder, p.238)
Finally, she left for good. Wesley wryly reported in his journal, 'I did not forsake her, I did not dismiss her, I will not recall her.'
He should take consulted with Charles. He should have asked for the wisdom of other leaders. He should take been prepared for marriage. He should take considered his wife's needs more than his own. In all this, the story of Wesley's marriage is an unhappy one. But if it is uncomfortable for us to read, let's not forget that it was far more uncomfortable for him to alive. And equally uncomfortable for Molly, who, maybe was merely hoping to have some of him for herself.

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